“ is who directs this play, in this …… in alone part if the story is destined tragic, why bother gives me beauty, show photograph gets together and love of ……” of take leave of makes fun of like really, and playwrite and director, it is ourselves actually. With its hidden bitterness, be inferior to adapting for oneself a new play, perhaps do not have tragedy so Bei relative, without comedy so do laugh, so romantic without character affection drama, but can let us collapse however free from anxiety gets happiness on the spot.

Love is not the game that —— control and recriminate make

All affinity are taking not affirmatory tint more or less necessarily, accept this only, ability avoids to always want to operate the other side will acquire temporary safe move.

Case: Latter, xiao Min is right the male friend that is in love 10 years is more and more malcontent. Male friend meets come back, xiao Min criticises he does not consider be eager to make progress, put forward to part company, move oneself to live in. Cannot think of, male friend did not look for her this again. Xiao Min wants to be illogical why to go docile and obedient male friend, this such absolutely definitely. Although she wants to call to him everyday, hair short message, after a few months, two people relation still is in freezing point. In advisory room, she keeps examining minutely advisory division: How should be I done, can ability look for him love to mine?

Solve: How should do, ability looks for lost love quite! In boundless and indistinct sea of faces, this problem does not know to eating the heart of how many person. In seeking advice, the impression that Xiao Min gives advisory division is exceeding angst (she asks to suggest ceaselessly, cannot satisfy censure with respect to angst) .

Love 10 years, she already was used to the self-surrender of male friend, “ parts company ” is her commonly used intrigue —— every time she puts forward to part company to male friendly dissatisfaction. Now, she lost control sense completely for the first time. In seeking advice, xiao Min realizes gradually, this kind of “ operates - the relation of ” be operatinged, it is her typical affection mode, can who can accept the identity that is operated forever? Xiao Min must learn to accept the uncertainty in the relation, OK and referenced a few strategy has:

1, stop a phone to examine minutely, take some of space to male friend; Otherwise, force more closely, he escapes further.

2, when wanting to call to male friend particularly, can change condition of one runner band, go out for instance take a walk; Perhaps change a target, make a telephone call to the friend for instance.

3, want to notice when the help that seeks a friend, the friend is supportive origin, not be to help straw. If capture a friend to be not put desperately, let a friend assume all angst, time grew a friend to also be borne hard.

4, the angst that should learn to use a few other way to handle his, hear music for instance, write diary, measurable physical training (especially gem gal can make what person heart loosens take exercise) etc.